6 Powerful Ways You Can Deeply Practice Self-love Every Day.

We often see so many quotes, posts, and social media platforms talking about self-love and promoting it and you think yeah of course I love myself…

But what does self-love really mean? What does it mean to actually love yourself? 

It took me a while to really get what the concept behind self-love is, It took me a while to realize what self-worth means, what I have to offer, and how important I am to myself really. Self-love isn’t as simple as it sounds, it’s a continuous and dedicated journey that requires you to “do”- saying you love yourself simply just isn’t enough. True self-love is so deep and refined.

A good comparison for this concept is the unconditional love a mother has for her children; she puts them first, she wants the best for them- the best education, best health, the best opportunities etc, she doesn’t want to see them sad or hurts- she provides comfort, she pampers them with gifts because she wants to see them happy. 

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She disciplines them even when they are unhappy and she makes hard decisions because she believes this for their own good.

Imagine doing all these things for yourself. That is self-love. I want you to love yourself so deeply that just the thought of someone else treating you less than what you know you deserve provokes you.

I want you to love yourself so deeply that you always put your mental and emotional health first and that you set boundaries with anyone who makes you uncomfortable or constantly provokes you.

I want you to love yourself so deeply that you remove yourself from situations that make you feel uncomfortable or you remove people from your life even when you don’t want to but you know that’s the best decision for you.

Below are some simple ways you can authentically and deeply practice self-love, enjoy 🙂

Affirmations

Affirmations are a good way of practicing self love because the tongue is a powerful tool so imagine what impact saying words of encouragement, motivation and self love everyday will have on you. I feel like Issa from Insecure is my kindred spirit- the way she motivates and gasses herself up .

I find it so hilarious, like yes girl! 

Start writing notes of encouragement, things you want to accomplish during the day and small little pep talks and repeat them to yourself several times daily and watch a complete change in your attitude. 

I’ve always wanted to receive a love letter, I find a written message to be so romantic until I simply just started writing them to myself. I want you to start writing love letters to yourself.

In each letter I want you say how proud you are of all that you’ve accomplished and express some of your favorite qualities about yourself to – well, yourself.

  You can also subscribe to my email list here where I send cute affirmations weekly.

Self Advocacy

You are your biggest asset- protect it. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve – which is the best obviously. Don’t allow people to downplay your worth, set a standard for yourself and stick to it. 

You literally have to believe you are that b*tch, this is how I want to be treated, these are the standards I have discussed with myself- you either align with these or you align yourself out of my face- period.

Advocate for yourself in the workplace, in your relationship, with family and friends. Because if you don’t stand up for yourself and demand only the best then who will?

You have to be the one to set the bar for yourself and then enforce it.

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Forgive Yourself

I once heard somewhere that forgiveness is the ultimate act of love and I truly believe that in my heart. Forgiving someone that has hurt you is one of the most difficult things to do and when it’s someone you love and trust it becomes 10 times harder. It takes everything inside you to forgive that person but you do because you love them- that’s why it’s the ultimate act of love.

The same concept applies to yourself. Holding a grudge against yourself is poisonous- it eats you alive. Forgive yourself for things you have done wrong in the past to the people you love, forgive yourself for the things you have put yourself through and accept that you are flawed. 

Also forgive yourself, for accepting less than what you deserve and allowing people to treat you less than what you know you are worth. Be compassionate with yourself.

It creates a stronger relationship with yourself and it professes unconditional self-love .

Put Yourself First

This is something I stand by sooo much! When I was growing up my mom always told me “The people at the front of the line always get the best servings”. 

So why wouldn’t you want to give yourself the best serving? 

You had to learn that in order to put yourself first you had to say a few no’s, you had to set some boundaries that made a few people uncomfortable, you had to cut a few people out of your life and you had to be a little selfish. But that’s okay, because you deserve the best servings that life has to offer.

Self Care

Girl, treat yourself! 

Go on dates by yourself, do your hair, get your nails done, don’t be afraid to eat alone, buy lingerie sets and take amazing pics and buy that sex toy too. 

Self-care is a simple gesture of appreciation and love- it’s the break you need from a stressful day or couple of days. 

Pampering yourself makes you feel good and loved, I was so afraid to do these things alone because I thought that they were only supposed to be done with someone and I was afraid of how I would! 

That ultimately stopped me from doing all of the things I wanted to do because I was waiting until I was in a relationship or I was trying to always have a friend to tag along until I realized that I was depriving myself of so many fun activities.

I was literally watching my life pass me by and I absolutely refuse to do that. No one is watching you, no one cares, please start going on more solo dates.

Learning to be alone, to be able to sit with your thoughts and also have fun with yourself will not only make you fall in love with yourself more but it will help you grow mentally and emotionally.

“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.”

– Katrina Mayer

Learn To Take Care Of Your Mental Health.

A big part of self-love is focusing on things that make you you this includes your mental health, your traumas, the more unpleasant things we often shove under the carpet and shy away from talking about. Having those uncomfortable conversations with yourself and facing those uncomfortable truths is what is going to make you grow and become a better person.

Make taking care of your mental health a part of your self-care, become to entwined with your past traumas that you learn your triggers and you learn to eliminate bad habits that are stifling your growth. Become more intuitive about healing from your traumas and generally just making better decisions for your mental and emotional health.

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